I can understand why you would get mad

I can understand why you would get mad and hurt by the message you were sent, but e-mail is no different than any other kind of mail; some of what you get is useful, and a whole lot is not. Do like our mamas and daddies told us ever so long ago: consider the source. The nonsense he spews is not worth your time or your energy. And since you know he’s an uninformed moron concerning your personal circumstances, why bother with him?

You know in your heart you’re doing the right thing for your family, your husband, your kids (yes, they’re yours, too); you don’t really need any validation from “miserable and twisted” people you don’t even know, so don’t sweat it when you don’t get it.

Actually, that lesson goes pretty far even with the people you DO know; some people (maybe even your lawyer or members of your own family) might tell you to give up, but as long as you can honestly say you have your kids’ best interest to guide you, what other motivation do you truly need? Truth, Justice, and Fairness For All are big, lofty goals, and it would be nice to say that all the efforts I make are purely motivated by them. But right now, what I really want is to see my stepson dressed up as a magician for Halloween and to have him tell me one more corny knock knock joke and show me the nine of spade from his trick card deck for the 1005th time. Because I miss him when he’s not here. That’s why I do what I do.

More power to you all as you make your way,


Hello All

New to the club. I have custody of my three boys. I have plenty of experience in family court and am willing to help and support others in similar situations.

I’ve started my own club on Yahoo! called Dads with Custody. If you are a father with primary custody, I invite you to join. Glad to be a part of a club that helps divorced fathers with their issues.

God Bless,