**coming from someone who is helping her husband with the emotional and research support with the custody of his son.***

I don’t think it should be looked at if its a man or woman. Both do it either way. Fathers pain comes from the fact the courts are not willing to do anything about the crap she gives you. Some people get their justice and some don’t. Some pay a lot of money to lawyers and opt to cash advance and other forms of credit. Of course, if you do – you should stick to reputable online loan companies like Even with bad credit you can get a loan there. But enough about loans. Back to our question. Some women do it some men do it. It just depends on the person doing it. Not one single case is the same. If it was, it would be much easier for the judges to make more solid decisions. Just remember, if you are TRULY right and deserve custody or your visitation etc… Always act like it too. With all the hatred in your words about it, its just gonna hold you back more. Its ok to be upset about your situation, but its no reason to find fault with every person you meet. Like that one girl who helps her husband/boyfriend, just like me. Do i or any other woman (supportive of their men and their problems) deserve to be shot down just because other women or your woman is doing what they are doing to you?

I remember watching talk shows where one person is gay or a freak or something out of the normal everyday life as we know it (or want to know it) someone or all people in the audience comment to how you “ruin it for all men (or women)” WHY is that? They are one person, they do not and should not affect what you think of other men or women. Did i make any sense, lol.

Custody of Move-away

The keyword would be JURISDICTION.

If you have firmly decided to pursue custody, do not let the jurisdiction go out-of-state.

The disadvantages of distance are immense: travel, lodging, and the difficulty of seeing and communicating with your child.

Your girlfriend may eventually file for child support later (6 months+) in the new state, so the jurisdiction ONLY AT THIS TIME is up to you.

Once she is served in your home state, generally she will encounter compelling reasons (legal ones) to stay for a while…

Use this time to devise strategy, to negotiate in good faith with the mother, and most importantly, to establish yourself as THE DAD in your child’s life.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do, and welcome to the club…


I am new to this, my girlfriend and I have recently split up and she is taking our daughter back home, 6000 miles away. I want to try to get custody but don’t know what kind of a chance I have.

She didn’t even want our daughter and spent her whole pregnancy trying to get me to agree to put her up for adoption.


I don’t have custody

I don’t have custody, I wish I did, but with the judge I have, I’m sure my ex would have to be guilty of murder before I could get custody. She could even beat them into the hospital and I would still not get custody.

Yesterday was a good day in court, though. Because I had to physically place my oldest daughter in the corner this weekend, my ex had told the court that I had “assaulted” her. There was an emergency hearing yesterday (Wednesday).

The judge actually chewed my ex out and re-iterated that when the kids are in my care, I have the right to discipline them in what ever way I see fit, especially in light of the fact that in my religion corporal punishment is prohibited. The judge also told her that she (the judge) was tired of seeing her (my ex) up at the court for every little thing.