The best thing you can learn to do besides the information in this previous post is to make sure you have given your lawyer direction as to what you want and then stand back and let them do their job.
If you see them straying from the course you and they have drawn out, then step outside and give them a little refresher course on the original course and ask why we have deviated from it.
The worst thing you can do to a trial lawyer during a trial is mess with their focus.
You are right when you say, ‘Just because many men are denied access to their children does not mean that all woman are the same.’
Unfortunately that is what is seen the vast majority of the time, and is probably the motivation for 99% of the people in this club.
Just as a tiny suggestion, I would save all of the chats you are having through the internet with the children. It is more of a CYA move than anything. I was and am doing the same as you. It is great because I can send pictures, e-cards, money, and silly jokes to my daughter and all without any censoring from the ex.
There was one question that arose, and was introduced in a one little court skirmish, that was tossed out as soon as the judge saw a complete copy of the chat session, including the silly joke.
You know the problem with the current divorce industry, is that it needs a winner and a loser in order to profit and continue. It is only natural that some who lose a lot are bitter.
I applaud the initiative you are taking and have know several temporary girlfriends of mine who have told me to give up on my daughter and my fight for joint custody. I have joint custody, a daughter will purple hair, and can not remember the names of the temp girls.